It's like music. I like it, I know about it and how it's made, but if you handed me a guitar and asked me to create a song my face would fill with fear as I slowly backed out of the room.
I used to volunteer to help throw monthly children's birthday parties at a Japanese single mother's home when I served in the Navy, but I usually stayed at a bit of a distance. Other guys would be roughhousing with a pile of kids while I served cake and cleaned up the wrapping paper.
A little bit about myself: I'm from Oregon, and the youngest son of the youngest daughter of a Catholic family. Which means I'm one of the youngest of my 20+ cousins, and have zero experience with small children.
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| In case you're curious what it's like to grown up in a Catholic family... |
Today I'm 29, still in Oregon and working as a photojournalist. I've been married to my loving wife for two years, and I'd managed to push off growing our family for the same amount of time. I want kids, but our financial situation hasn't been stable until recently.
My wife (Let's call her Marlena) is a natural-born mother. She knew she wanted to be a teacher since she was in 1st grade, and has dedicated her adult life to learning the best ways to raise and support kids. When we were dating she didn't want a few kids, she wanted a basketball team.
Before we married we negotiated our future family. I wanted 2-3 kids. There's nothing more humbling than a sibling, and nobody who will know you better, or infuriate you more, so I've always known I wanted at least two. Much more than that just seems excessive. Don't let the expensive cameras or fancy press pass fool you, I know baristas that make more money than I do.
She agreed to settle for 4 kids total, but I still tell her she should have married a doctor if she wants that many.
She knows I can be apprehensive around kids, so I can only imagine what she was thinking when she told me she was pregnant 8 months ago...
~Welcome to my blog
look at it this way, its a win win you got your two kids, and she only had to be pregnant once, old fashioned two for one deal!
ReplyDeleteYou were just looking for an excuse to use that headline, weren't you? :)
ReplyDeleteOh, I've got a ton of puns stored up just for headlines. I apologize in advance. :)
DeleteI have one cousin in Washington who has two sets of twins and one single child. Cross your fingers, as from what I hear twins are more likely after you have the first set.
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